In Cognitive Therpy Group we have been talking about productive versus destructive emotions. Last week's topic was resentment versus righteous anger. The outcome to resentment is revenge or medicating with symptoms. Resentment can last forever. It can be passed to the next generation to hold the grudge, and, eventually, exact revenge. Anger, however, when assertively expressed, stops injustice, corrects wrongs and improves relationships. Recovery involves finding and using your voice. Being able to say no, setting healthy limits, and expressing your truth will improve your life and relationships beyond measure.
A simple, but very effective, 4-step assertiveness technique:
1) Describe what happened factually.
2) Express your feelings about it.
3) Ask for what you want to be different.
4) Explain the consequences if things do not change.
- Dr. Kilmer
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